
Uncommon Togetherness Vs Common Togetherness?
I’ve noticed that when people read the words “Uncommon Togetherness,” they often respond with confusion:
“Togetherness is togetherness! What’s ‘uncommon’ about it?”
And I hear them.
Let’s take a moment to explore what I mean.
Common Togetherness:
Common togetherness shows up in expected ways—within the groups and identities we naturally belong to:
Family togetherness
Friends togetherness
Cultural or ethnic togetherness
Generational or age-group togetherness
School spirit, sports fans, and club affiliations
These are all familiar forms of togetherness. Comforting, meaningful, and yes—common.
Uncommon Togetherness:
Now, let’s stretch the imagination a bit. What would Uncommon Togetherness look like?
Cats and dogs peacefully living together
Lions and lambs coexisting
Black Lives Matter advocates and police officers in open, honest partnership
Muslims, Jews, and Palestinians sharing space with mutual respect
These relationships are not expected. They are unusual, courageous, and rare. When they happen, they feel extraordinary. And they often require something radical—like curiosity, humility, or the willingness to set aside being “right.”
A Curious Inquiry:
Let’s make this interactive.
Can you name 3 examples of common togetherness in your own life?
Now, can you think of 2 relationships that represent uncommon togetherness?
Do you have a friend, connection, or memory that feels out of the ordinary—a surprise to others, or even to you?
This is the kind of inquiry that energizes me. It invites imagination. It invites growth. It invites possibility.
The Heart of This Blog:
This blog will focus on just that: discovering, questioning, and celebrating the idea of Uncommon Togetherness.
I believe that when we shift from a mindset of right vs. wrong to one of workability, we begin to open the door to unexpected connection.
In future posts, I’ll share stories from my life where I’ve taken risks—small and large—to create uncommon togetherness.
One such story? A mini-adventure at 2am on a Sunday morning with two men I’d never met before. I’ll tell you about it soon.
Let’s be curious together.
Let’s imagine a world where uncommon togetherness is not just possible, but real.